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Today I had a somewhat light line appear on my ovulation predictor test strip, which I think indicates I may ovulate in the next few days, because the last time I tested only the control line was visible.
I'm concerned about my friend Dave (The_Ugly_Knight). He's always been flaky and unreliable, but lately things have been much worse and I don't believe it has everything to do with his baby, Dillyn, as he claims. I think it has more to do with his unhealthy, co-dependent relationship with his girlfriend, who is manipulative, emotionally blackmailing, and unfriendly to his friends; when she and I first met, she wouldn't even speak to me, despite my best efforts at being friendly. Before he moved in with her, he was able to meet us once a week for our regular plans, but since then he has pretty much disappeared from his friends' lives completely. As far as I know, the only friend with whom he's had an contact is his younger cousin, Chris; I'm glad for that, but it doesn't help me worry any less or feel less slighted.
If he is just busy with Dillyn, that is something we can work around. We can all chip-in on a car seat to install in my car's backseat, so I can pick up both him and his baby, so they can both join us for our Tuesday night gaming. It's not hard to set up a space for a baby Dillyn's age in an unfamiliar space; I've done it plenty of times for the children of aunts and cousins at various family gatherings. Alternatively, we could all chip-in to hire a baby sitter to stay with Dillyn for several hours while we game at Triple_Phoenix's apartment. I've mentioned this to Dave, but he has yet to respond to me in any way about it, which is why I believe his absenteeism has more to do with his disfunctional relationship with Stacey than it has to do with Dillyn or his utterly undemanding, nine-to-five job.
His recent behavior is reminding me a lot of the way my alcoholic friends and girl friends in abusive relationships have acted when they were getting in to serious trouble either with their drinking or their relationship. They withdraw from their friends, make excuses, avoid discussing issues, and, most specifically, avoid me. Dave still answers phone calls from people other than me.
I'm concerned about my friend Dave (The_Ugly_Knight). He's always been flaky and unreliable, but lately things have been much worse and I don't believe it has everything to do with his baby, Dillyn, as he claims. I think it has more to do with his unhealthy, co-dependent relationship with his girlfriend, who is manipulative, emotionally blackmailing, and unfriendly to his friends; when she and I first met, she wouldn't even speak to me, despite my best efforts at being friendly. Before he moved in with her, he was able to meet us once a week for our regular plans, but since then he has pretty much disappeared from his friends' lives completely. As far as I know, the only friend with whom he's had an contact is his younger cousin, Chris; I'm glad for that, but it doesn't help me worry any less or feel less slighted.
If he is just busy with Dillyn, that is something we can work around. We can all chip-in on a car seat to install in my car's backseat, so I can pick up both him and his baby, so they can both join us for our Tuesday night gaming. It's not hard to set up a space for a baby Dillyn's age in an unfamiliar space; I've done it plenty of times for the children of aunts and cousins at various family gatherings. Alternatively, we could all chip-in to hire a baby sitter to stay with Dillyn for several hours while we game at Triple_Phoenix's apartment. I've mentioned this to Dave, but he has yet to respond to me in any way about it, which is why I believe his absenteeism has more to do with his disfunctional relationship with Stacey than it has to do with Dillyn or his utterly undemanding, nine-to-five job.
His recent behavior is reminding me a lot of the way my alcoholic friends and girl friends in abusive relationships have acted when they were getting in to serious trouble either with their drinking or their relationship. They withdraw from their friends, make excuses, avoid discussing issues, and, most specifically, avoid me. Dave still answers phone calls from people other than me.
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